I Get Older, They Stay The Same Age

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Back in the day it was ok for a 40-something-year-old man to marry a 14-or-15-year-old girl. In fact, that’s still somehow acceptable in parts of the world today. Pardon my French, but why the fuck is that okay?? Child marriage and pedophilia is a serious concern in humanity, and unfortunately, a very current problem.

Fifteen million girls a year are married under the age of 18. That means one underage girl is married every two seconds. EVERY. TWO. SECONDS.

That is an absurd statistic! With such a serious problem in the world, why is it that we still see pedophilia being made okay in mainstream media?

Let’s take the very popular film from the ‘90’s Dazed & Confused, one of my personal favorites. It’s about a graduating high school class in the year 1969. The characters are all going through life changes and making adult (or not so adult) decisions. Also, one of the main characters, Wooderson, played by Matthew McConaughey, is a pedophile. He’s know for sticking around the high school crowd even though he graduated years ago, because he likes hooking up with the high school ladies—the teenagers, in other words. He’s known for saying, “that’s what I love about these high school girls, man. I get older, they stay the same age.”


Let’s pause for a second. What?! Is that not a messed up thing to say as a grown-ass man?? I’m sorry, am I missing something here? Is that not right out pedophilia? The film glorifies the character like he’s a sex god, but, in reality, he is preying on underage women. Am I the only one who caught that?

You may be thinking, “oh, well, it was set in the ‘60’s, man. All kinds of things were messed up during that time.” Okay sure. I guess everyone might have been going a little too hard on experimenting with drugs at the time. (Even though that should still not be an excuse).

So what about the very popular film American Beauty? That’s set in somewhat current times—it was released in 1999 and supposed to be contemporary. It’s about a middle-aged man going through his midlife crisis and he develops a thing for his teenage daughter’s best friend. Yeah, that’s a critically acclaimed film.

Don’t get me wrong. I love these movies! It’s just frustrating that no one seems to be pointing these things out. Not to mention the blossoming pedophile sympathizing that’s occurring more and more frequently.

Just last year, writer, Todd Nickerson, for Salon wrote about how he’s in love with a five-year-old girl, but “that doesn’t make him a monster.” He runs down how he thinks he became a pedophile, his “eureka” moment of when he realized he was a pedophile, and how he’s suffering in silence, but not any more!

Sorry Nickerson, but what the actual fuck?

He goes further and explains that pedophiles and child molesters are very different. People who are pedophiles do not act upon their sexual urges—once they do, then that makes them child molesters.

“I’ve been stuck with the most unfortunate of sexual orientations,” Nickerson writes. “A preference for a group of people who are legally, morally, and psychologically unable to reciprocate my feelings and desires.” Well, he says it right there, folks. This is not a situation that includes two consenting adults. It includes one adult and one child who is still trying to grasps the basics of the world. That’s it’s messed up.

At least Nickerson states he has never touched a child and never intends to. Still, this article is making it okay to be a pedophile.

This is readily available for anyone to read on the Internet. What’s confusing is why is it even there in the first place? Who allowed this? Why does an entire article telling people to sympathize with pedophiles exist in the Media?

The media has a tendency to go soft on this kind of stuff, that’s why. Them making pedophilia not a big deal isn’t anything new. There have been pedophiles in all societies since the beginning of history. Ancient Greece had very open pedophiles for goodness sake!

In a 1998 edition of the magazine “Psychological Bulletin,” wrote to the American Psychological Association affirming that sexual abuse in infancy “does not cause intense damage in a pervasive manner,” and recommended that the term pedophilia be changed to “intergenerational intimacy,” because the word pedophilia has negative connotations.


This was in 1998, not some time way back in the day, people! The American Psychological Association eventually issued a statement rejecting the normalization of pedophilia. However, the fact of the matter is that there was a highly regarded science magazine in the media writing about how pedophilia isn’t all that bad and that’s absolutely absurd.

However, even with the media glazing past pedophilia, there are definitely many organizations that are taking action against child molestation. Sites like Girls Not Brides, Rights 4 Girls, Darkness To Light, and Girls Rights Project are working hard to keep kids safe.

Hollywood is even being exposed with documentaries like “An Open Secret,” unveiling the epidemic of child molestation ravaging child actors.

So hopefully, this whole making pedophilia okay in the mainstream media thing, will soon come to an end.