Apps to Improve Your Relationships - You & Me Week


By Chloe Kent

Photo courtesy of Wikimedia Commons.

A 2013 study found that more than a third of couples married between 2005 and 2012 met online. It is only fitting, then, that a number of new apps emerged since to further facilitate the use of technology in relationships.

“Was your day romantic, happy, flat, sad, or angry?” the recently-launched Boyfriend Log, asks its users. The philosophy behind the iPhone app is that when people log their emotions by day, they eventually begin to understand their relationship. Boyfriend Log promises to document users’ highs, lows, and pivotal points with color-coded calendars for “visual clarity.” Loggers are allowed to track multiple relationships, both romantic and platonic. The accompanying Girlfriend Log is set to launch this month.

Couple, which is available on both the iPhone and Android as well as online, offers romantic pairs a way to build private personal timelines to share their relationship history and remember special moments. The app facilitates private messaging, shared calendars, and to-do lists. There are even Snapchat-esque disappearing photos.

Avocado, which was co-founded by ex-Google employees Chris Wetherell and Jenna Bilotta, is accessible online, plus on iPhone and Android. Connecting with your significant other via digital chat, lists, calendars, and sketches are all available with Avocado. Perhaps the cutest feature of the fatty-fruit titled app is the “hug” option, which allows users to digitally embrace their partners by clutching their device to their chests. It triggers a tender texted touch for lovers who are too busy for direct bodily contact.

Love your girlfriend but always forget to write her messages? If that dilemma leads to fights, there’s BroApp, “Your Clever Relationship Wingman,” which sends automated text messages to guys’ girlfriends at predetermined hours. The Android app, which is in development for iPhone, was created “for any Bro looking to enhance their relationship.” Messages are voided if you’re logged into the WiFi of your significant other (clever, right?) or if it reads that you’ve messaged her recently. There’s no telling how girlfriends will react to BroApp if they discover it on their boyfriends’ phones, though.

For the sexually active iPhone users who are interested in how a mobile device reads their performance in bed, the SpreadSheets app can find out how many thrusts per minute they average. It can also detect “how long you go for, and exactly how loud it gets” to record the time and date of every sexual accouter without means of audio or video. (Interesting, but I wonder how that algorithm works.) Co-founder Tyler Elick told BTR last year that in spite of the “humorous side and a blush factor to Spreadsheets, once users get past those aspects, they react positively to the app.”

The Invisible Girlfriend App, set to launch later this year, has different plans and packages that enable its users to “create a credible, believable” fake girlfriend using both physical and virtual proof. Users choose girlfriends by the app’s extensive library, where they can then customize her personality according to their tastes, plus determine how she will interact. The app’s developers are also working on a parallel service, Invisible Boyfriend, for girls who are sick of those annoying questions like, “‘Are you single? Want to go out for coffee? Need a dance?’”

Appy Couple allows engaged couples to share details of their impending celebration, as well as stories of how they met, with wedding guests on compatible devices.The app functions as a pre- and post-wedding social media platform of sorts, where couples can personalize their page with one of 300 customized templates to introduce their wedding party. There are also resources to provide registry details and give pertinent information to guests. The app fosters an overall community where party-goers can chat amongst each other and upload pictures from the big day.

Renowned marriage researcher and New York Times bestselling author Dr. John Gottman’s app Love Jungle uses simple games for couples. The app makes use of the doctor’s “40 years of research and clinical practice.” Its games are won by answering questions like users’ family goals, frustrations, or dream vacations.

Expressing Needs, another Gottman Institute app, facilitates communication between couples and sparks difficult conversations. It’s something that may come in handy to prevent those petty fights over doing dishes where your partner claims they “just expect you to know.”

For busy couples, Kahnoodle employs positive affirmations designed to make it easier for them to remember the fun and thoughtful aspects that brought them into a relationship to begin with. It also rewards couples with vendor discounts. The app was created to fill a niche in the goal-making app sphere. After all, apps are developed to help people achieve most any type of goal, from weight loss to an artfully managed day at the office. Managing relationship success using an app makes perfect sense then, right?

Romantically involved individuals may feel initially uncomfortable or even slightly embarrassed to employ technological assistance to help nurture their relationships. But hey, didn’t you feel awkward the first time you tried an electric toothbrush? Or logged into AOL Instant Messenger? Or fidgeted with your friend’s fancy all-in-one remote control?

Since both app technology and romance are here to stay, why not combine the two to benefit your quality of living?